Tackling Social Media Envy

To quote Drake, song #20 - views on his views 6 album, “You don't worry 'bout fittin' in when you custom made”, well ain’t that the truth? In this day and age where we have become what I like to call, certified-professional creeps, we spent so much time idolizing people’s lives on social media that it literally takes away from focusing on progressing in our own lives. What’s even worse, some people fabricate an imposed reality of what they think your life is based on posted pictures on instagram. Or, let’s flip it to the other side, people who are obsessed with maintaining a ‘digital image’ that their everyday lives are so boring and to be honest just sad. All of this today, #YouDoYouBooBoo While I spend hours on the internet to create mood boards of what I want my website to look like, my logo, the quality and content of images, all of this I get inspirations from other influencers on the web. However, I don’t recall myself ever looking at their posts and thinking‘oh man @asiyami_gold travels the world and looks flawless, man my life sucks so hard’. What I did think was ‘Dannnnng @asiyami_gold takes bomb pictures, well curated and thought out, her brand is clean and so powerful, MOOD BOARD’.

This boils down to differentiating envy and admiration. It is critical to celebrate the achievements of others, without feeling like it is compromising your own success. As well, it is so important to remind ourselves that social media is literally a snapshot of reality. An engagement shoot is not reflective of a perfect marriage. A travel shot in Thailand doesn’t make me a baller. A lifestyle blogger posting cafe shop shots every week doesn’t mean they are filthy rich and spend their day and night there, most coffee shops drop hints that they want you out of there within an hour for clients turnover.

Next time you mentally or emotionally catch  yourself comparing yourself to someone else, based on their post, do the following:
  1. Stop yourself. Some go on a social media fast (I’m not about that life), others purposefully turn off their phones for the rest of the evening or day, to get mentally recharged. Go read a book, go for a walk, read an insightful online article; those things still exist FYI.
  2. Turn envy into admiration. Tell yourself: “That’s so cool that she is on a cruise on her way to the Bahamas, that’s such a good shot she just posted on IG. She seems so hardworking, and most likely in need of a vacation, good for her.” You have your own journey, celebrate it and look for ways to grow, without feeling like your path has to be the same as others.
  3. Spend more time planning and writing down your goals, strategizing on how to make it happen. The same amount of time you spend creeping people’s profile and envying them, is the same amount of time you could be making moves.

We all have the same 24 hours in a day, how are you spending yours?

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